I recently received an email that said, “It’s hard to get where you’re going when you’re worrying about a stolen identity.” I thought about it for a while and came up with my own quote, “It’s hard to get where God wants you to be, if you don’t know who He says you are.”
For many years, I thought my identity was defined by my relationship to others in my life. So for the early part of my life, I was somebody’s daughter. That worked pretty well for me until I got married and became somebody’s wife. The problem was that I constantly saw myself through my husband’s opinion of me at the time. If he was happy with me, I was okay. But when he let me know he was unhappy with me, it devastated me.
Then, I became somebody’s Mom, and that worked pretty well until the rebellious teenage years hit. Again, when I judged myself by someone else’s behavior or opinion of me, it was a disaster…all because I did not know what God says about me. No wonder that some time in my late forties, my life fell apart.
We show a video in our Women of Grace (WoG) program in which a man is asked, “How can you be who you are if you don’t know who you are?” His answer rings true, “You can’t be, you have to be somebody else.” Ha! I was literally trying to be someone else, because I didn’t know what God says about me.
Because I am a believer in Jesus, He says that my primary identity is that I am His Child (Rom.8:15-17). Because of what Jesus did for me on the cross, I am forgiven (Col.2:13), filled with His Spirit (ICor. 2:12), made righteous (IICor.5:21), His Treasure (Matt. 13:44-46), and totally accepted by Him (Rom.15:7)…no matter what! Learning and choosing to believe these truths has transformed my life. I am no longer looking to others to tell me who I am. I am free to be the “unique me” (Ps.139:13-16) God created me to be as His beloved (Rom. 9:25) daughter.
For you ladies (or men who want to share this with your lady!), do you want to know more about your true identity and how understanding who you are in Christ could change your life, as it did mine? Come to our Grace Life Conference for ladies only August 10 & 11. It will be a time for you to connect with other ladies, learn about your identity in Christ and the blocks that keep you from living the abundant life promised in scripture. (John 10:10) Click Here to Register Now!