For many years, I struggled in a difficult marriage. My focus and my prayers went something like this: God, “Please fix my husband and fix my marriage”, because I believed that would fix my life. You see, I thought I would be happy “if only” I had a conflict-free relationship and a good marriage. So, I would plead with God, “We are both Christians, aren’t we supposed to be able to get along? Isn’t a good marriage part of the abundant life Jesus came for? What is the problem? Why doesn’t my husband make me happy? Why is life so hard? Why do I feel so hopeless and tired?”
As you think about your biggest life-struggle right now, do you identify with these questions or have similar feelings?
Perhaps you have heard the saying, “That’s like icing on the cake.” The “cake” for me was a good marriage. It was the thing I wanted most in life, and if that was in place, I believed that I would be able to handle everything else that came along. It was the essence of what I desired the most, and everything else in life was icing.
Fast forward 25 years. Seventeen of those years I have been on staff at Grace Life International. Beginning with the first time I attended a Grace Life Conference in 1995, God has been lovingly, leading me to understand that though there is nothing wrong with desiring a healthy relationship with my husband, I can not find answers for my life in him. You see, I had made my husband and my marriage an idol (something I put in the place that only God should have). God loved me enough not to let my idols “work”, and He loves you that much too.
What I know now is that the “cake” of my life is Jesus and everything else is icing. He said it better than I in John 6:35, “I am the bread of life; he who comes to Me will not hunger, and he who believes in Me will never thirst.” Now I really like icing, and God has been gracious to give me lots of icing. He has brought a lot of healing to my marriage, which is awesome; but, ultimately I know that nothing will satisfy the deepest needs of my heart, except Jesus.
Ladies, if you want to hear more of the details of my story and God’s truths, I will be leading a special LADIES ONLY Grace Life Conference, February 9th and 10th. You can learn more about this Conference and sign up to attend either in our office or join us live online by CLICKING HERE. All Conference and ADT alumni may attend for $10 or free when accompanied by a first time guest.
Guys, we plan to have a Conference just for you later this year, or you can sign up for the March Conference, lead by Tom Short, that is open to everyone.