Are you ready to date? Is your teen or single ready to date? Here are some practical thoughts on dating from the perspective of grace for you to consider before you answer.
Dating is really not discussed in the Bible. It is a modern invention of the western world. In the time of the Bible, parents chose who you were going to marry. That may sound totally crazy to us today. However, we parents know our kids better than anyone else and have a good idea of the type of person who would be a good fit for them.
I’m not suggesting that we go back to parents arranging who their kids marry. But I am saying that people who are dating would be very wise to ask their parents what they think about the person they are dating. Most parents are good at discerning the character of a person fairly quickly. Are you willing to do that?
How is your love relationship with Jesus? In other words, is your heart already filled with God’s personal love for you? If so, you are prepared to date if God leads you to do so. Jesus’ love for you will be a deterrent against you trying to suck the life out of the other person to meet your God-given need for love. This can be a major stumbling block in dating and in marriage.
Depending on Jesus to live his life through you is the only way to mature as a person and a Christian. Nothing can better prepare you for dating than this. Jesus says in John 15:5, “Apart from me you can do nothing” which includes dating.
Learning that your identity is in Christ is important too. Otherwise you will attempt to derive your identity from the person you are dating. That’s one of those things that can sabotage your relationship quicker than playing a game of Call to Duty.
Have you decided on your non-negotiables in dating? I covered this very extensively in my blog/devotion two weeks ago. I hope you have at least decided that you are only going to date someone who loves Jesus as much as you do.
When you do decide to get engaged, believing God has brought that special person into your life, do yourself a favor and get some quality Christ-centered counseling. We offer great pre-marital counseling in our office and through Skype but we also know of other ministries around the country who can help as well.
Do you have a young friend or relative? Our teen conference is coming up and it’s a great place to hear more about the grace message! You can also follow the link below to connect to one of our counselors!