Do you ever think that there must be something wrong with you because of your failures, sins, or mistakes? This idea can discourage you and keep you from moving past
God’s Cure for a Shame-based Identity
Have you ever heard that little voice in your head saying, “There must be something wrong with me”? It usually speaks to us after a mistake, a sin, or a
Grace-Onomics: God’s Exchange Rate for Shame
In 2002, staff members, Sandy Witherspoon, Dan Ascher and I traveled 24 hours to get half way around the world to Kyrgyzstan so we could teach the New Covenant message to the staff of a large Christian ministry. While there, we were all shocked at the monetary exchange rate. For example, $10 US dollars exchanged for about 600 SOMS which would buy an enormous amount of beautiful Kyrgyz goods.
In our world, there is also an exchange rate for an issue called shame. Shame in this case is not being ashamed of something you did or some sin you committed or the ones committed against you. This kind of shame is more about an inner sense of being defective. It is the overwhelming thought, “Something’s wrong with me!” It’s a cousin of guilt, feeling very similar but not quite the same.
For those outside of Christ, there truly is something wrong with them. Their core self, called the “old self” according to Romans 6:6 is all wrong. It is an enemy of God and evil through and through. We can praise God, though, that once a person is placed into Christ through faith in Him, that old self is crucified with Christ and removed permanently. Then it is replaced with the “new self”, your New Creation identity.
Yet, if we don’t constantly remind ourselves of our identity in Christ, this world we live in can mold even in us shame based messages. It often comes from thoughts the Accuser places in our minds or from people who criticize by throwing identity statements at us like: “You’re stupid.” “You’re crazy.” “You can’t do anything right…and more.”
Let’s make this practical. Do you know the central lie you believe about yourself which your shame based identity is wrapped around? If not, would you stop and ask the Lord to show it to you right now? Here are a few I’ve heard through the years.
I’m not a very good Christian.
I’m very inadequate and inferior compared to other people.
I must be the best to be important.
I’m too stupid to get my life together.
Once you know what that central lie is about you, then you can let God’s truth replace it with the genuine reality about who you are. That is you can be renewed – change how you think – about yourself. Here are some good examples.
Who Am I? (Taken from our Grace Life Conference)
Matt. 5:13 I am the salt of the earth.
Matt. 5:14 I am the light of the world.
John 15:1, 5 I am part of the true vine, a channel (branch) of His (Christ’s) life.
John 15:15 I am Christ’s friend.
John 15:16 I am chosen and appointed by Christ to bear His fruit.
Rom. 6:18 I am a slave of righteousness.
Rom. 6:22 I am a slave to God.
I Cor. 3:16; 6:19 I am a temple of God. His Spirit dwells in me.
I Cor. 6:17 I am united to the Lord and am one spirit with Him.
I Cor. 12:27 I am a member of Christ’s body.
II Cor. 5:17 I am a new creation.
II Cor. 5:18.19 I am reconciled to God and am a minister of reconciliation.
II Cor. 5:21 I am the righteousness of God in Christ
Gal. 3:26, 28 I am a son of God and one in Christ
Eph. 1:1 I am a saint. (See I Cor. 1:2; Phil. 1:1, Col. 1:2)
Eph. 1:4 I am holy and blameless.
God has exchanged your shame-based identity for a grace based identity (Gal. 2:20) (Col.3-1-4) which is dependent on what Jesus has done instead of what you have done! Are you tired of your attempts to remove your shame through “try harder religion teachings?” Spend time this week proclaiming the truth of who you are in Christ, and enjoy resting in the exchange of your shame for God’s grace.
Believe it! It’s the Gospel.
Live Free In Christ,
Mark Maulding, President and Founder
www.GraceLifeInternational.com All Content Copyright © 2015 Mark Maulding but feel free to pass it on!
Grace-Onomics: God’s Exchange Rate for Shame
In 2002, staff members, Sandy Witherspoon, Dan Ascher and I traveled 24 hours to get half way around the world to Kyrgyzstan so we could teach the New Covenant message to the staff of a large Christian ministry. While there, we were all shocked at the monetary exchange rate. For example, $10 US dollars exchanged for about 600 SOMS which would buy an enormous amount of beautiful Kyrgyz goods.
In our world, there is also an exchange rate for an issue called shame. Shame in this case is not being ashamed of something you did or some sin you committed or the ones committed against you. This kind of shame is more about an inner sense of being defective. It is the overwhelming thought, “Something’s wrong with me!” It’s a cousin of guilt, feeling very similar but not quite the same.
For those outside of Christ, there truly is something wrong with them. Their core self, called the “old self” according to Romans 6:6 is all wrong. It is an enemy of God and evil through and through. We can praise God, though, that once a person is placed into Christ through faith in Him, that old self is crucified with Christ and removed permanently. Then it is replaced with the “new self”, your New Creation identity.
Yet, if we don’t constantly remind ourselves of our identity in Christ, this world we live in can mold even in us shame based messages. It often comes from thoughts the Accuser places in our minds or from people who criticize by throwing identity statements at us like: “You’re stupid.” “You’re crazy.” “You can’t do anything right…and more.”
Let’s make this practical. Do you know the central lie you believe about yourself which your shame based identity is wrapped around? If not, would you stop and ask the Lord to show it to you right now? Here are a few I’ve heard through the years.
I’m not a very good Christian.
I’m very inadequate and inferior compared to other people.
I must be the best to be important.
I’m too stupid to get my life together.
Once you know what that central lie is about you, then you can let God’s truth replace it with the genuine reality about who you are. That is you can be renewed – change how you think – about yourself. Here are some good examples.
Who Am I? (Taken from our Grace Life Conference)
Matt. 5:13 I am the salt of the earth.
Matt. 5:14 I am the light of the world.
John 15:1, 5 I am part of the true vine, a channel (branch) of His (Christ’s) life.
John 15:15 I am Christ’s friend.
John 15:16 I am chosen and appointed by Christ to bear His fruit.
Rom. 6:18 I am a slave of righteousness.
Rom. 6:22 I am a slave to God.
I Cor. 3:16; 6:19 I am a temple of God. His Spirit dwells in me.
I Cor. 6:17 I am united to the Lord and am one spirit with Him.
I Cor. 12:27 I am a member of Christ’s body.
II Cor. 5:17 I am a new creation.
II Cor. 5:18.19 I am reconciled to God and am a minister of reconciliation.
II Cor. 5:21 I am the righteousness of God in Christ
Gal. 3:26, 28 I am a son of God and one in Christ
Eph. 1:1 I am a saint. (See I Cor. 1:2; Phil. 1:1, Col. 1:2)
Eph. 1:4 I am holy and blameless.
God has exchanged your shame-based identity for a grace based identity (Gal. 2:20) (Col.3-1-4) which is dependent on what Jesus has done instead of what you have done! Are you tired of your attempts to remove your shame through “try harder religion teachings?” Spend time this week proclaiming the truth of who you are in Christ, and enjoy resting in the exchange of your shame for God’s grace.
Believe it! It’s the Gospel.
Live Free In Christ,
Mark Maulding, President and Founder
www.GraceLifeInternational.com All Content Copyright © 2015 Mark Maulding but feel free to pass it on!
