God fully accepts you if you feel sexually broken. Let me repeat this. God accepts you if you feel sexually broken. To feel sexually broken is a result of believing that the sin a person has committed or the sin that has been committed against them has stamped them as sexually messed up. As a result, they may feel shame, guilt, anger, hurt, rejection, betrayal, frustration, or even hopelessness. They may wonder if they are able to have a healthy view of sex.
Let me remind us all that healthy marital sex between a man and a woman is God’s idea and desire for you. With that in mind, be encouraged that no matter what has been done to you or what you have done, Jesus has already freed and healed you. It is a matter of how to experience this reality.
Most people have some degree of feeling sexually broken. Why? When Adam sinned in the garden, we became sinners by virtue of being in him, skewing our view of everything including sex.
Here are just a few examples. One lady came to us who had been molested by different people when she was a child. She represents many women who have been sinned against in the same way. Other women have experienced the sinful violence of rape. These are just a few of the ways women have been sinned against sexually. There are also men who have been sinned against with similar sexual sins.
Other sexual sins include but are not limited to pre-marital sex, pornography, adultery, sexual fantasies, incest, pedophilia, and more. The Greek word that is used 25 times in the New Testament for all types of sexual sins is porneia. This literally means all sinful sexual activity that is not between a man and woman in marriage. By the way, pornography has no place in the marriage bed.
How can we begin to live free and healed from our feelings and beliefs that we are sexually broken? For those who have been sinned against sexually, you can start by understanding that it was not your fault. You can continue by forgiving the offenders, even if they have never admitted their sin. One person angrily said, “I will never forgive them!” Eventually, that person forgave each one in prayer as God instructs in Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Her 65 years of depression lifted. We who are in Christ were forgiven when we did not deserve it so God wants us to forgive those who do not deserve it for our own healing. Reconciliation may not be possible; you might also need to distance yourself from that person. Finally, remember that your identity is not a “victim” but a “victor” because you are in Christ. You may also benefit by meeting with one of our wise, loving, staff virtually for counseling. They can show you how Jesus can heal you further through your sessions which may include “healing prayer”.
If you are sinning sexually, Jesus says you are already free from this sin because you died with Christ to sin’s power! Anyone who has died has been set free from sin. Romans 6:7. You see, in Christ, you are not a pornographic person, an adulterer, a lustful person, or a perverted person. Instead, God says you are a forgiven, righteous, and holy person in Christ. You may benefit as well from our counseling regardless of where you live since all of our counseling is online now.
I began this blog by writing that God accepts you if you feel sexually broken. How is that possible? 1 Corinthians 6:11 tells us that because we are in Christ, we are not defined by sins against us or our own sins. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. Washed means forgiven past, present, and future in Christ by the blood of Jesus. Sanctified means made holy in Christ by the death and resurrection of Jesus. Righteous means made perfect in Christ by the death and resurrection of Jesus.
Your Heavenly Father and all of us at Grace Life International want you to live free from feeling sexually broken. You do not have to live that way for the rest of your life. Please contact us at 704-522-9026 or by email.